I am linking up with Ms. Shanna today!
I can't wait to spend my day at work and than come home and address an over abundance of invitations.
Anybody wanna trade?
Speaking of wedding I just can't believe how close it is sneaking up on us, I am so ready to be a wife, and not just any wife, but to be P's wife is just a dream come true.
It's so amazing when you find "the one"
and looking back at it now I just cannot believe how much we have gone through!
When I started planning my wedding I REALLY wanted it to be us. Completely us in every single way. I didn't want an extravagant wedding with lots of tulle, lights, and enormous amount of beautiful flowers. That is any girls dream wedding but I wanted it simple, elegant, and the main focus in the room to be our love, and the love we share with our closest friends and family.
There is one thing that is hard to comes to our wedding. 2 of our most loved and cherished family members will not be joining us on that day. At least not physically.
One of the things that really brought P and I together is our support system for one another. I met him in a very fragile time in my life. I was dealing with the loss of my grandfather who I shared an incredibly special bond with, and after meeting P I realized he had been living with a hardship of his own for over 15 years. The loss of his father. After countless discussions and flipping through hundreds of pictures I can just see the love and admiration in both of their eyes, they were inseparable. Just like my Papa and I.
There have been hard and tough decisions when it come so to planning a wedding and all the details that come along with it, but one of the hardest things is how we can make those 2 influential people a big part of our day. Growing up I always believed my grandfather and my dad would walk me down the aisle, and after he passed I remember one of the things that devastated me the most is he would never see me graduate college, he would never see me get married, he would never be a great-grandfather to my children. They would never know the smile and the laugh that made my child hood so amazing.
I have been contemplating all the different ways. I will have a charm on my shoe with his picture in it. That way I can still live my dream of him "walking" me down the aisle, and P will carry a picture of his dad in his pocket, close to his heart. So in our own ways we will have our special bond with them on that day that no one else can see, but I still feel like I need more.
I think no matter what I do that feeling of want will never go away because I can never be truly satisfied unless they are both there.
Did you do anything to memorize anyone at your wedding? In which fashion did you do it? I would love to hear how others honor their loved ones.
After all, these two brought us together, the least we can do is thank them. For everything.
I've been thinking about the same thing. I was definitely a daddy's girl, and he passed away almost 5 years ago. Thinking about how at my wedding next year that I won't have anyone to walk me down the aisle or have the father daughter dance kills me. I'm not sure what to do!
ReplyDeleteI've heard of people leaving a seat empty in the front and putting your favorite things there.
I'm sure your wedding will be amazing- and they'll be with you in spirit the whole time :)
ReplyDeleteMy grandfather passed away unexpectedly less than a month before my wedding, and it broke my heart. To keep him with me I had a strip of fabric from one of his shirts tied around my bouquet- I love that I can see it in a lot of the pictures. Also, a family friend, Dean, who had always been like a second dad to me passed away from cancer about 6 months before our wedding. My dad played guitar for one of the songs in our wedding, and he used Dean's guitar when he played.
I agree with Ashley, also her idea is very nice.
ReplyDeleteBoth your Grandpa and P's Dad are ALWAYS there with you guys, looking after both of you and celebrating all of your accomplishments.
Maybe you can also keep a space on your main table for both of them and put a photo of each one of them, that way they "officially" have a spot on your celebration.
I am sure you will find the best way to honor they memory and the fact that you would have love to see them with you that day!
The charm on your shoe with his picture in it is absolutely precious. Love that is your way of still having him walk you down the isle...very sweet. :)
ReplyDeleteI like the idea of a piece of fabric from one of his shirts tied to your flowers. You can hold onto that piece tight during the ceremony.
Ahhh weddings make me all emotional and add missing someone so important to you on top of it. Ball bag over here.
I had a hard time figuring out the right way to honor my father at my wedding. Nothing seemed good enough and I had a bratty moment where I chose to do nothing because it wasn't fair that he couldn't be there. My brother fixed it though. He was one of the groomsmen and on my wedding day he chose to wear my father's ring and a pair of his old cufflinks to honor him. I am so grateful he did that regardless of my depression over the whole thing! Thinking back, I think I would have also "saved a seat" for him next to my mother too.
ReplyDeleteI love you Hal!!!!
ReplyDeleteAt our wedding we honored my grandpa thelmer, chase's cousin josh (who passed away 3mo before our wedding) chase's great grandma b, and my bff's dad (it was the anniversary of his death) by lighting candles during the ceremony and having a moment of silence to remember them and know that they weere there with us.
Also, at Ambers wedding I gave her a locket with her dads picture in it so he could still walk her down the aisle.
I love your shoe idea <3 so sweet!
This is such a sweet post! I teared up reading it! Especially about the charm on your shoe! :( We had a memory table at ours for our 3 grandpa's that had passed away. Here is the link to it: http://pinterest.com/pin/73113193920137003/
ReplyDeleteLove ya girl!
xo
That is so sweet! I think it's important to always remember the people who can't be with us. The great and beautiful thing is they can still hear your vows from above!
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