The "BIG" Step.

So in the midst of all our crazy wedding organization of collecting rsvps, finalizing seating charts, finishing up some last DIYS, writing early thank you notes, and obtaining our official marriage license P says last night..

"It's getting so close, it's SO weird that we are going to be married"

and I replied "not really, it's more exciting, and it's not really like anything is going to drastically change, except now you can call me your wife"

he agreed and said "I know, I just cannot believe I am at that point in my life where I am getting married."

and it got me thinking, I believe that there is a giant misconception of marriages and that it is perceived as "scary" and a "big step"
I won't lie, and say I don't believe it to be these things sometimes but in the all around picture, when you TRULY love someone, and you've know it to be true. Marriage isn't a "big" step it's the "right" step.

P and I have been living together for 2 years now,
Our love for each other will still grow stronger everyday.
We are already home owners and have been for about a year and half, we know each others space, we respect each others boundaries, and we have together made our house a loving home.
We have already discussed our desire for children in the (Hallie: near, Porter: far) future.
We have had joint bank accounts for a extended period of time, we work together in finances, budgeting, saving, spending, and consulting each other before big ticket purchases. Money is not something that we EVER disagree on.
We work together everyday in making the best life decisions for ourselves and each other. We are always communicating on how to make each other and our selves better people.
We love spending all of our time together, and being "together" doesn't necessarily mean that we are sitting next to each other cuddled up in the same room. We can be in separate rooms, watching separate shows enjoying our life together. I know he's there if I need him and vice versa.

I've been thinking lately alot about my past, my upbringing, my family, my friends, my hometown.
It's not that I am saying goodbye to all these things but I am closing that chapter in my life.
I am closing that single girl, trying to find her place in the world story. It was a good story, but I am ready for fresh start.One that is not just about me, one that is about my husband, and our life together. I've never been so excited to put a pen to paper in my entire life.


I can't really give myself marriage advice because, well, I've never been married. I do however believe that going into a marriage being naive and telling yourself that you will be together forever just because you are married, is where sometimes it can go wrong...
Marriage is a constant work of art that must be shaped every single day, just because it's there and you have secured it's place in your life doesn't mean you neglect it. You have to make it a daily routine to LOVE your marriage, and LOVE your spouse.  To make sure it's happy, healthy, and comfortable.
To make sure you not only hear, but really listen to it's wants and it's needs.
You have to be wiling to give up whole self to make up half of a healthy marriage.


We know all these things, and we practice them everyday. Marriage is a big, intimidating step, and even though it can be "scary" at times, I (we) are ready to take the "plunge".

holy shit....we are getting married.