I was so excited when Hallie said she was looking for some wedding posts… I’m getting married this summer and I have wedding brain ALL. THE. TIME. I wanted to talk to you today about long distance planning… and why it’s ok to get caught up in the hype!
So many people spend a LOT of time justifying why they are doing something the way they are, or arguing that they “are definitely NOT copying from Pinterest, I swear.” I was this way, heck sometimes I still am, but recently I had the epiphany that sometimes, they hype is EXACTLY what you’re looking for.
See, I’m planning my wedding from a distance. My fiancé and I have been together a little over 7 years, engaged for a little over one. When we first were engaged, we lived in Blacksburg, VA. That’s 6 hours from our Pennsylvania hometown. Recently, we moved to Northern VA. A nice change, but still 2.5 hours from home.
Needless to say, we have spent a LOT of time in the car, having Skype meetings with vendors, and reading reviews. We have asked married friends for their advice over and over again, listened to unsolicited advice from anyone who wanted to give it, and asked opinions of just about every family member we had face to face contact with (Sorry Aunt Liz!)
At the end of the day, what we realized was that when choosing vendors with limited time and no opportunities to see their work, the hype is really what it’s all about! We chose all of our vendors, made all of our wedding decisions based on what EXCITED us. Our DJ is an old friend, and one of the very best in the business. Our photographers made us laugh the first day we met them. Hired. Our florist? She was willing to make our bouquets and let us keep them… 6 months before the wedding. My videographer was my sophomore year homecoming date! All of these people were chosen to represent us on our big day because WE liked them. Because they captured my Pinterest images perfectly. Because they went above and beyond in their services.
Maybe I’m just a sucker for good marketing, but I really believe that you should be allowed to get excited about planning your wedding! You don’t have to break the mold if you don’t want to. You are more than welcome to use all the same vendors as your sister, if that makes you happy. But let’s make one thing clear: Make yourself happy.
Yes, you will be married no matter what, and yes, that is the most important part of the day… but shouldn’t the cake taste good too?