He began telling me the story of how he had worked on a multi-million dollar project with a man who had more money than he ever knew what to do with; he was nice, but very busy. My boss went on to tell me that same rich man died a few months after the project was completed. When my boss attended his funeral, he was shocked to find that there were only 5 people in the entire room. In a time of celebration of his life, there was nobody and nothing but left over money in his bank accounts.
He was rich in money, but not in life or relationships.
I find myself consistently thinking about money. Bills, savings, and what next thing I can buy with whatever is left in my “play money”. I find myself scrolling instagram adding things to my wish list $50 shoes, $200 designer bags, and anything else that seems to be on the “trend” these days. I know that if these things were not being coveted by others, I would not desire them either, yet even subconsciously as I think in my head “I don’t need that” my want to be IN-Fashion, or On Trend states “but you have to have it”
Usually my budget usually wins and I can talk myself in to saving the money for our future children, or for future vacations. At least until the next “want” comes rolling on in.
When my boss told me this story I began to think about my life and how I am always so consumed with having the BEST things. I am house hunting for a bigger house, even though ours is perfectly fine. I am always looking for a higher paying job, even though I adore everything about my current job including my co-workers which is such a hard concept to find in an office setting. I am looking for new clothes, even though my closet is FILLED to the brim with barley worn items. Yet I am always looking for more.
Erin wrote a post a few weeks back talking about her overly filled schedule, and always being so busy, but her take on it was so positive. She wrote about how being busy meant she had friends to see, people to share her time with, spending date nights with her hubby, and special moments with her family. Which really, she is right. Having those relationships, and consistently staying busy means that you have an amazing life, and are building those every needed relationships that will be there for days, weeks, years, and decades to come.
P and I have started becoming really involved in our church, something we both never thought we would do. Our faith wasn’t strong, and we just didn’t feel the full grace of god, but as we met friends and opened our hearts, the love started flowing in. Those relationships I have built with my church friends could never be explained nor compared. They have filled such a void in my life, and it was all because we decided to take a chance and try something new. We were not wasting our Sunday mornings on expensive brunches and shopping trips. We spend them with our friends worship our amazing God.
My point of this random filled post is after hearing that story of a rich man, with no family, friends, or relationships to leave behind in this world, only his bulging bank accounts. I began reflecting on my life, and my want for all these nice things and lots of money, when I need to be focusing on my family, friends, work relationships, and of course my amazing blogger besties.
Life isn’t about the big house, nice cars, and bank accounts you leave behind.
It’s about changing the world with your smile, helping those in need, laughing with a stranger, and being a shoulder to cry on for a best friend.
Be the person who, when their life is celebrated, there is not an empty seat in the house.
My new mantra.